TOMMI
by Ryan Tate
Letters to Tommi is a journal of love and grief, written from the heart to a heart no longer here. Through each letter you will come to know Ryan and Tommi, what they shared, and the depth of a love that simply refused to stop.
THE PERSON BEHIND THE LETTERS
Ryan Tate is a British writer who lost his fiancé, Tommi, to a sudden cardiac arrest in 2025. What began as a therapist’s suggestion became something far more powerful. Ryan discovered that writing could hold what spoken words could not. These letters were never intended to be a book. They became one because grief, when this honest, belongs to more than one person. Ryan writes without performance or pretence, sharing his story so that others walking in the dark might find something in these pages that quietly feels like light.
“I write because I cannot put him down and do not want to.”
— Ryan Tate
TOMMI
Some loves do not end. They change where they live, quiet and faithful, written in grief’s hand.
Grief here is not a stage or a timeline. It moves in quietly and stays, shapeless, loyal, and deeply present.
These letters show that a real connection does not end with a body. Ryan and Tommi keep talking across the silence.
Ryan catalogs Tommi’s quirks and laughter, terrified of forgetting. Memory becomes the act of refusing to let someone disappear entirely.
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Ryan Tate writes about love, loss, and the courage between them.